Five Signs Of A Good Listener

We all know some people are better listeners than others. Excellent listeners give their full attention to whoever is talking. Pitiful listeners can’t stop thinking about themselves long enough to hear what others have to say. Most of us fall somewhere between.

People with anxiety may not listen well if their focus and worry is on what to say next. This usually leads to mind-freeze or lobe-lock; conversations typically go downhill from there.

Know that if you practice listening attentively, meaning not thinking but only listening, conversation is much easier. It leaves you free to have spontaneous reactions to what is being said which is a necessary ingredient of good discussions.

Although most of us know when we are with a good listener, we may never think about what qualities are involved in listening well; until now.

5 Signs of L.I. (Listening Intelligence)

1. When talking to a good listener, you know that you’ve engaged their attention. The eyes reveal they are focused on you. They will not get the glazed over look of someone who’s deciding what to eat for lunch, or appear distracted as a person who is listening to another conversation while in one.
2. Because a good listener is free to react naturally to what is said, they come across as being genuine. Attentive listening requires a person to forget themselves while conversing, and people are more genuine when the self is temporarily forgotten.
3. Many excellent listeners come up with frequent intuitive remarks or keen observations. Because their attention is on your words, and they are not thinking about what to say next, their mind is quiet. A quiet mind can be observant of body language, facial expressions, the feeling behind words, and is ready to receive any pearls of wisdom that visit their gray matter.
4. Good listeners often know themselves well because they not only listen to others, but to their own thoughts, feelings, and instincts.
5. After enjoying someone’s rapt attention, you walk away feeling appreciated, that what you think and feel matters. Giving attention to someone is a gift everyone likes receiving.

Listening skills can be improved, and there are payoffs for making the effort. Being attentive works magic with relationships, school grades, and employee performance reviews. If your social anxiety is high, you may need to practice listening and responding with a counselor, or in a group setting, where you can learn to trust your spontaneous thoughts, and emotions.

By Jacqueline Marshall.

Source: Living With Anxiety

Karma by Scott Shaw

Before I get into the whole who, what, when, where, and why of Karma, I believe that it is important to discuss one of the most essential issue of Karma -- why people turn to this understanding for answers.

People commonly ask, "Why has somebody else achieved something?" "Why have they, when I have not?"

If you wonder why you have not achieved your life goals and desires, the first place you need to look is yourself.

Do you live your life from a place of positivity and goodness or do you live your life based in negativity?

Negativity is expressed in many ways: anger, criticism, violence, dishonesty, and so on. If you perform these actions, then you have developed bad Karma. It is as simply as that.

If you live your life embracing negativity, that is the answer to the questions of why you have not achieved your life goals. For if you live your life at this level, negativity attracts negativity and you will never be able to live your dreams -- because negativity is against the greater good of mankind and the universe.

If you find that you have been living your life embracing negativity, and you want to change, the question may then be asked, "What can I do to change?" Well, the first thing you must do is you must stop performing negative actions. Then, you must repair the negativity you have unleashed.

What does this mean? You must replace your negativity with positivity.

First of all, do not attempt to justify your actions by stating, "I didn't like that person or that person deserved it."

Who are you to judge!

As long as you negatively judge others, it is you who will inhibit your own growth as a conscious individual.

Or, "I did it because of my negative cultural programing, my bad childhood, or my family genetics."

Stop that! Take responsibility for your actions!

Furthermore, repairing your Karma is not like going to confession and being told to recite one-hundred "Our Fathers," or one-hundred "Hail Mary's." Those actions may right you with your priest, but it does not right you with the person or person's you have unleashed negativity against.

It is kind of like saying, "I'm sorry." That statement means nothing, if you do not do something to truly prove that you are sorry.

What you must do is, you must right your wrongs!

How is this achieved? That depends on what you have done.

If you have stolen, you must repay those who you have stolen from. If you have lied, you must tell the truth. If you have criticized, you must replace that criticism with praise. If you have injured, you must repair the damage.

Many people wonder why Karma hits them so hard. This is because they do not set about on a path of positivity and consciously attempt to right the wrongs they have committed.

Repair your own Karma.

Try it and you will be amazed at the results. Positivity will enter your life and you will much more readily achieve your goals.

It is you who must do this. No one can do it for you. Right your wrongs!


Source: Karma

Always Be Grateful For Everything

This is the most powerful emotional state of mind that people can have, that is be grateful. Always be grateful for the love you receive from your family, your friends, your colleagues. Thank them in some way. Treat them a meal, buy them a gift, just give them a word of greeting, or just give them a prayer in your heart. Be grateful to yourself, to your body. Say thanks to your feet for supporting you for such a long time, say thanks to your eyes for letting you see the beauty of this world, say thanks to your ears for giving you the beautiful sounds of the universe. Say thank you to every part of your body.


If you do this, you will feel gratitude all the time, you will feel a source of energy flowing through your body. You will feel energize and motivated. If you are reading this article right now, you are probably reading it with a computer. This means that you are in the category of 70% rich man in the world. If you were born with great physical outfit, then you should be grateful for your body. When you are down and sad, just think of other people who are even more worse than you. Some people always said that they don’t have a car, and only if they have a car, they can travel anywhere to run their business and they can succeed. Is this true? No! Not at all. Some people don’t even have a motorcycle, but still they succeed because they have the burning desire.

Whenever you are down, think about what you have around you. Did you know that you are actually a very rich man if compare to people 100 years ago? Did you know that with all the information you receive from the internet in just one day, is much more than the entire life of a person 100 years ago? Don’t complain that you have living a lousy life, don’t complain that if you are not having a car or a job. Just be grateful of everything you have. Once you always be thankful to what you have, you will feel that energy start flowing into your body. You will feel energize and you will be motivated. You want to do more and you will provide more, give more. In the end, you will receive what you want the most.

In fact, if you were born with everything, you will lose the hunger for success. If you were born in a billionaire family, most likely you will lose the hunger to create more wealth. This is because you already have everything you wanted, and this makes you lost the hunger for success. That is why most of the self-made Millionaires start from zero, just like you and me, we are future millionaires. 

Source: The Millionaires Secret

Do not dwell in the past,
do not dream of the future,
concentrate the mind on the present moment.
~Buddha

Have a great weekend!